Now wait a cotton-pickin’ minute. You mean to tell me that times have gotten that hard for young women these days that they have to resort to cancer hoaxes to get some guy to marry them? I mean, this woman and her fiancé had an 11-month old daughter. They should have thought about getting married before they popped that baby out.
Wait a minute. Maybe this guy didn’t want to marry her, and she got desperate. Honestly. What man would refuse to marry a woman with terminal cancer? But honestly, if I was in her position, I wouldn’t want to trap a man like that. Maybe that’s why he went upside her head. Dammit, I’d be pretty pissed as well, to find out that the mother of my daughter lied and schemed in order to trap me in a marriage I probably didn’t want in the first place. I’d be a little embarrassed, too. I’d be thinking, I stood up with this woman, and pledged my devotion and love, through “sickness and health,” and I got played!?!?! In front of my family, friends, neighbors? Everyone believed that this broad was sick? And now they’re looking at me, like I conspired with her to pull this off? I’m not her damn accomplice!
Awww, hell to da naw! So I can’t really blame him for filing for divorce.
I have a theory about this. Ms. Vega didn’t want to be a baby mama. Ya’ll know what a baby mama is, right? If you don’t, you have been rotting away on a stranded boat in the middle of the ocean. *SIGH* A baby mama is an unmarried woman with a child.
See, gone are the days of the shotgun wedding, where men and women who did the deed, resulting in an unplanned pregnancy, got married. No one wanted to be known as “that woman.” So men and women, who didn’t really love each other or had anything in common other than a night of hot and sweaty sexual acrobatics, got married, to preserve the woman’s honor and to ensure that the child grew up in a two-parent home.
Many GenXers are proud products of the shotgun wedding, me included. I can attest, that strategy did not work. There’s nothing fun about growing up in a household where you know that your parents are ill-suited for one another. It leaves an indelible mark on your psyche.
But in the late 90s, men got hip to the game, and began to flip the bird to marriage. I mean, women were selling the booty like hotcakes, no strings-attached sex, and the fact that “they didn’t need a man anyway.” So why not? If a man has a choice between free love and a life chained to a woman he doesn’t love, he’s going to choose door number one. Most men arent’ going to be discerning when they get that tingly feeling down in their loins.
So women had no choice but to try to put a smiling face on the fact that they had a child, but no husband. So the word baby mama was a badge of honor for many women who had to grin and bear it, pushing that stroller down the street, knowing that they aren’t going to get any help from that man they knocked boots with over a year ago. Remember Fantasia’s song, “Baby Mama“? Yeah, she got famous because of her anthem to unmarried women with babies. “Girl keep your head up…blah blah blah.”
Well, being a baby mama may be acceptable in some parts of society, but it’s not always embraced in upstate New York. Those folks are still trying to keep up appearances. And given the statement of the mother of Ms. Vega’s in defense of her lying and scheming daughter, Mama Vega is in some deep dark denial. OH, the embarrassment. What will my friends think about me? I could hear the conversation now.
Mom Vega: Look. You need to do whatever it takes to get that man to marry you.
Ms. Vega: But Mom, he doesn’t want to marry me. He was pissed that I got knocked up. I told him I was on the pill….
Mom Vega: I don’t care what you told him. I don’t care what he thinks. I don’t care if you tell him you have cancer…just do whatever it takes to get him to the altar. I’m tired of my friends snickering behind my back.
So, to keep up appearances, Ms. Vega fooled everybody in Newburgh. The newspaper, all the businesses who donated her dress, rings, honeymoon, cake, shoes, pictures, etc. She fooled her fiancée and her mama. Most of all, she fooled herself into thinking that she deserved all of this.
What a cruel commentary. In a world where children suffer because of poor decisions made by parents, we would rather keep up appearances than be truthful. We would rather fake it till we make it…or not. Women are so seduced by the idea of having a fairytale wedding that they don’t even think about the days, weeks or years. They would rather stick their heads in the sand, clutching those wedding albums and mementos, than think about the damage that they are complicit in causing to themselves, their husbands, their children, their families.
I’ve always felt that weddings are nothing but shams, illusions, fantasies, and elaborate rituals designed to validate one out of every two marriages that go up in smoke anyway.
And for real. If I have terminal cancer, the last thing I’m going to be concerned about is an elaborate wedding and honeymoon. Call me crazy, but I wouldn’t add the unnecessary stress of planning a wedding and being Bridezilla. Because you know that’s what happens to your typical bride-to-be. Now follow along…you have terminal cancer, and are in a lot of pain and agony, and you’re going to plan a wedding? Nobody found this to be a tad bit odd? Are people that damn gullible?
I guess we are. If we weren’t, this story would have never been a story.
And the most important thing to ask is this: Ms. Vega, have you lost anyone to cancer? Do you know how devastating cancer is? Were you thinking before you opened your big fat mouth and allowed your lie to drip out like bile?
I believe that you are one of most manipulative, heartless and spineless creatures to walk the earth. You give women a bad name..we already have it bad because of women like you who feel you have to slither your way thorugh life like a slimy snake. Most importantly, your opportunistic and greedy ways make a mockery of cancer patients and their families.
You deserve whatever will be handed to you as a result of your scam. Karma is a bitch, Ms. Vega. I hope you understand that.
- Jessica Vega: Did This Bride Fake Leukemia to Get Free Gifts and Honeymoon? (blippitt.com)
- Husband: Bride Faked Cancer for Wedding Cash (foxnews.com)
- Bride Fakes Cancer and Scams Everyone (rawjustice.com)
- Husband says wife faked cancer for free wedding (today.msnbc.msn.com)
- Man divorces wife he claims faked leukemia for gifts (nydailynews.com)