I never thought I would write something in this vein, but I felt I had to. I can’t take it anymore.
After reading The Village Voice article penned by Steven Thrasher and entitled “White America Has Lost Its Mind,” and all 200+ comments, I have come to the conclusion that the entire world has lost its collective mind.
And there’s nothing that can help us get it back.
Yes, people, we’re screwed.
White folks railing against non-Whites.
Gays hollerin’ at straight folks.
Straight folk condemning gay folk.
Muslims burning American flags.
The rich looking down on the poor.
The poor cursing the rich.
This shit is crazy. I’ve never seen anything like it.
Everyone has something to say, but no one is listening.
More troubling, is this: If the solution to all of our problems hurtled to the Earth, no one would hear it crash, and we would all die as a result of ignoring it. We would be too busy arguing and back biting and debating and pontificating to even care about saving our own collective asses.
Shut the fuck up already! Damn!
Why is it so important that we all be heard? Whatever happened to having a civil conversation, where, let’s see, I talk, you listen, then you talk, and I listen, and we come to a shared understanding about what the issue may be?Oh yeah, we’re all mind readers and know exactly what someone is going to say before he or she says it. NOPE – WRONG ANSWER.
Why do people think that their problems are somehow more important, more pressing that the problems of other people’s? News flash: Frankly, no one gives a shit.
See, I learned a lot from being married (oh yeah, people don’t wanna do that anymore, because it’s too hard and it requires actually listening to someone else that you may or may not respect). I learned that it actually requires you to shut your trap up and listen for a change, to exhibit some sensitivity and empathy for someone else’s point of view.
But I’m learning very quickly that most people aren’t that mature. That’s why most people rather not get married.
Nothing’s worse in a marriage if you have one person who does all the talking. Why? Because chances are, that person isn’t doing any of the listening. And that sucks if you aren’t being heard. It sucks even more when you’re the perpetual gabber, and don’t see the signs when the person you’ve talked to death decides to leave your ass because they’re tired of listening to your endless yapping.
And if marriage is a microcosm of larger society, then I see why we as a society are miserable. I would venture a guess that all the blathering we’re hearing in the public sphere is from the people in relationships who weren’t heard by their partners and find it necessary to dump on the rest of us.
The problem is this: No one wants to take the time to listen, they are too busy in their own heads, working on a response to what it is you’re saying. And that response is so far afield that it doesn’t even begin to address what you actually said, because, dammit, you weren’t listening again!
How frustrating is that?!?!?
And if you’re subjected to that all your miserable life, I can see why someone would lose their freaking mind. Everyone’s living in their own heads, as Mr. Thrasher said, and no one bothers to actually look around, listen and process what it is they hear and see because maybe it just doesn’t jibe with what it is they need to believe.
And on a grand scale, if this is going on, as I believe it is, I stand my assertion that we’re all doomed and we’re all gonna die.
At least we’ll all be shouting and carrying on when it happens.
It’ll be painless.